There was a phase of my life that I compared myself to a then friend. I felt so low about myself comparing myself to her. To only realize that I was actually doing ok, perhaps better.
As I grew older, my parents reminded me not to compare. Be it life, career, wealth or even relationships. We all grow up at a different pace. We mature differently. We start working at a different age too. Some have it easier if they had a lil help financially and so forth
Relationships ended because it needed too. Lessons from there should be a benchmark of what you want, don’t want and what you deserve. Those lessons you made should not be a punishment to yourself and your current partner.
I for one don’t like to compare or dig down those bad memories. What’s on my Social Media and what my life is all about can vary slightly. I don’t need everyone to know.