
Mondayitis Wise Words

The internet is my playground, the streets are my turf, fashion is my aphrodisiac.

Always go with the choice that scares you the most, because that’s the one that’s going to help you grow.
2020, a year that excites me to the core. This is the year I will be getting married!!!
All, my life marriage was never a priority or excitement. I never once teared up at a wedding. But after meeting him and how our relationship smoothly transitioned into each phase. Here I am all excited to be his wife.
I don’t exactly have resolutions set for each year but I did have this list last year which I aced half of it. Yayyers!
So here goes my 20 for 2020 :
Anyways, those are my major goals for this year. Would love to be a more holistic person this 2020. Hope you all have an amazing one! Do share your thoughts.
Every woman looks great wearing high heels, and every woman feels sexy in them. High heels are adored,
cherished, desired and wanted by women. It is a compulsive addiction that is fetishized by women. Women
idolize glamorous celebrities who are highly fashionable and they are always in high heels, as it instantly
jazzes up an outfit.
Though killer high heels can create an instant uplift to an outfit, this pair of shoes brings so much
discomfort to the wearer. But the question is “Why do women wear high heels?”
I conducted a survey among my friends and in results, to it, they said they wear high heels to accentuate
their legs. High heels create an illusion of slimmer, slender and lengthen their legs. Hence, they appear
taller and lankier.
Men are also a culprit for making women suffer in high heels. In a man’s opinion, women appear sexier and
more appealingly seducing in high heels. This is due to the persona of raw sexual appeal. Women would go
to an extreme to please men. So they will wear ridiculously high heels just to impress.
A fashionista would still wear high heels though they know that there are consequences to wearing them.
This is because they have a mindset that says “Fashion has its price”. High heel wearers look like they have
tiny dainty feet. It makes them appear feminine.
Sexually enhanced posture and added height provides empowerment for high heel wearers and conveys an
autonomous and feminine message to the society. It also boasts more pronounced and curved breasts
and a fuller rounder butt. It also contracts the calves of the wearer. Wearing high heels also enhance the
backbone as it does not allow wearers to slouch. High heels emphasize all the aspects that are considered
to belong to a woman’s physical sexual attributes. It creates a level of authority, feminine power and
independence.
High heels may be something that all fashionistas or women, in general, go nuts about but it also brings
short term and many long term effects to its wearer. When a woman wears high heels, she loses her
balances as her centre of gravity is displaced and it makes her walk weirdly. It can cause a sprain or a broken
ankle.
High heels also redistribute your weight, creating unnatural pressure points and throwing your body’s
natural alignment out of whack. High heels also make you walk with your legs sprawling outwards like a
duck. High heels also generally force u to stand up straight to keep your balance while wearing it.
“Bridging” occurs when the heel is raised from the ball of the feet during the period of wearing high heels.
The lack of mid-foot support can cause arch problems. The foot that is lifted and resting on a downward slope
puts a lot of pressure on the toes especially the big toe. This symptom is known as the fore-and-aft slippage
that encourages calluses under the ball of the foot or the large toe. A woman’s stride and skin friction while
walking determine how bad a callus are. If it gets worst it turns into corns.
Another long-term side-effect would be the Achilles’ tendon, this is when the tendon is inflamed due to
pressure and rubbing of the heel cup against the tendon. Not only does it cause inflammation of the
tendon but it can also cause shortening of the tendon and hamstrings. This is thanks to the reduced angle
at the ankle. Tendons shrink when they aren’t stretched regularly. Foot deformation can occur due to
excessive usage of high heels. If you think this is just it, you are wrong. High heels are also linked to knee
arthritis and back problems. High heels can also increase neck problems and also muscle cramp around the
whole body especially the thighs and the back. High heel wearing also hurts the pelvic area and the lower
back.
High heels can lead to ugly foot development such as corns, bunions, calluses, hammertoes and claw toe.
Other than that it could also bring a negative impact towards bone injury.
High heels are the biggest leading factor of foot problem among women. Women also have a higher
tendency of getting foot problem compared to men. As women go on wearing their beloved high heels,
their foot hurts. It gets worst as women start to age.
It’s said that “Women may `wear’ slippers, `put on’ sneakers and `slip into’ loafers, but they `dress’ in high
heels”.
So to all fashion-conscious women out there, high heels do make you appear taller, sexier and more
confident but it also brings nasty long term effects. It’s all in your hands to slip into what shoe is the best
for you. But if I were you, I’d wear high heels for special occasions while the rest I’d wear flat shoes or
slightly shorter heels.
Wrote this for Frock.Paper.Scissors. A fashion magazine by QUT, Australia in 2007.
When things aren’t working out with a vendor, client or team member, it’s important to address the issues directly and immediately. And if it means letting this relationship go, so be it. In the long run, cutting ties with a party that isn’t adding value to your company’s mission, is the best route to take, as difficult as it may be at the time. I’m learning that when you’re in the early stages of growing a business, you cannot afford the added stress of trying to work through an impossible relationship. Firing is just as important as hiring.
Life is not meant to be lived in misery, it’s meant to be lived in celebration. As humans, we each have our own individual needs and we have a right to have those needs met. When we don’t thrive, we stifle the nature that makes us who we are and guides on this path that we call life.
I was out with my father, the person who I consult for most things related to work. He might not be from advertising, but his skills and common sense is truly valuable. We were driving to the supermarket I think, can’t really recall. When I started talking about my latest client.
A job that I had been pitching for since October 2018. I was still super jet-lagged from my recent trip to the UK and hit the ground running. I needed this, I needed it so bad. Sleep is for the weak anyways right?
The pitch kept ding-donging, I provided a full Marketing Plan for a year, a timeline for the prelaunch because suddenly the retainer included a launch. I provided them with a 12 months overview that includes – Awareness, Engagement and Sustenance phases. Campaigns were included that required photography and videography to happen before their shop launched.
Sadly there was no sense of urgency to respond from their end. The timeline was not even honoured. Emails that I had sent with questions were ignored until the very last week of the launch of the “Pandora” for slippers. A lot of things were kept ambiguous, so most of the price that was already invoiced was left in ballpark cause key details could not be given till the very very last moment.
The biggest frustration would be the payment. Generally, payments for jobs require a minimum of 50% to execute/mobilise work. But no. The client wanted their own payment structure would thoroughly impact my company’s work execution. But because we believe in good faith, we did move things around to be done at the next phase. Plus the person who introduced me to this particular client felt trustworthy.
My rates are very reasonable compared to my days in my previous 4A’s agencies. All the 4A’s that I had worked for are also international agencies – Leo Burnett, JWT aka J Walter Thompson, Euro RSCG and Bulb Communique. I love structure and some agency offers that. Workflow is so detailed that you have to go through it to ensure deliverables are done well.
So the launch of the “Pandora” for slippers happened despite manic changes less than 3 days for me to change all that had been agreed, purchased and paid. Talk about major stupidity, this is it. I lost money along the way and truth is, profit was so minimal as they had a tight budget for a year’s worth of campaign. I am so embarrassed by the fee if you were to know it.
I work on my own most of the time because I can do a lot of things on my own. I’m rather multitasking for my own good. But when I know I require an additional hand or so, I have no qualms to outsource work.
For instance, I collaborated with Echopunya Studios for Influencers. Designs are a team effort between my company and Fadli Studio. Work was confirmed so last minute that I needed to outsource some task so I could focus on the bigger picture. No, despite the fee that I was getting I was not stingy nor selfish to want to earn more.
I am not in the business to milk people. I want to help and grow businesses. I would have thoroughly appreciated if the client could have been more transparent with their budget and what they wanted. If they wanted just a launch, they should have just said it then beating around the bushes.
Despite the budget, the last minute flip to all things planned, the launched happened smoothly. Let’s save the launch story for another day. You can check it out here at my Instagram
Even the Brand’s Principal congratulated the launch and said it was a job well done. I believe so too. I even had a random buyer from abroad DMing me asking if I was the owner. Damn! My marketing must have been totally lit that she thought I owned it. My cousins thought it was a business of the bf’s and mine. Hehe. I’m just humbly doing my work.
After the launch, things got even messier. Replies took even longer. I followed up but to no avail. I had things set for next phase – photoshoot, DIY Workshop and more. Everything was pending. I knew and I had a hunch stating that all they wanted was just launch and not a retainer. They insisted I did not send the invoice to them. To my amusement, that’s not how it works. A Cost Estimate is sent out, they issue a PO and I send an Invoice before they could pay. Yup, I checked! I did send. They were trying to pick on everything despite my overly achieving KPI.
It saddens me, why do people lie? Why do people breach the contract? Do they not know how “berdosa” it is to not pay someone for their work. It is wrong to delay payment too. They kept it ambiguous.
I cried buckets to my dad, questioning why do people dare do such things. I was hired to advise them based on my experience but if they aren’t even able to comply with their responsibilities as per stated in the contract. How do we even do our best to deliver work? I even raised this matter in emails when they kept negotiating my fee.
I’m sad. I am truly disappointed at how young rich Malays work. I know I don’t have much as you do. But my intent was set right since day one.

You know the phrase “Action speaks louder than words”, I agree with this 100%!
Recently I had experienced this issue in many scenarios; family, friendship and work.
A lot of the time people say something but does the total opposite. Or they agree to something, but do another thing.
Are people of late truly lacking a thing called integrity? It sucks to be honest when they don’t adhere to their words and promises.