Hair Matters

If you are anything like me, you’d love all things hair and take pride in it. You’d love this! This post is more about hair care and hair supplements that I had recently discovered.

The thing about me is, I travel quite often. My travel duration can go up to a month or two. Making it quite impossible to use the same shampoo and conditioner pairing that I use in KL. One of my favourite sets is pretty difficult to find it KL lately and it can be pricey. So sometimes, I skim on my products. Which can be BAD!

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Always Do Better

In life, career, friendship, relationship, family and basically everything that is worth your time investment, do better. How you approach things before, if it was good keep it up. If it wasn’t improve but never discount it.

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20 for 2020

2020, a year that excites me to the core. This is the year I will be getting married!!!

All, my life marriage was never a priority or excitement. I never once teared up at a wedding. But after meeting him and how our relationship smoothly transitioned into each phase. Here I am all excited to be his wife.

I don’t exactly have resolutions set for each year but I did have this list last year which I aced half of it. Yayyers!

So here goes my 20 for 2020 :

  1. WORKOUT CONSISTENTLY
    I need to get back on track. I took a break when I was sick a few months ago. I was in too much pain to even stand up properly, let alone fit in a workout into my life. February is the perfect time to kickstart as I will be back in KL after my sabbatical. I need to look my best during my wedding too.
  2. DRINK MORE WATER
    This has been my life long constant struggle as I have a very rapid metabolism rate and “tiny” bladder issues. But will try harder. He is constantly making me drink more and even gets me my favourite Volvic water to encourage me.
  3. EAT MY SUPPLEMENTS RELIGIOUSLY
    I tend to forget this. Sigh. Since health is a priority, this should be on top of the list too!
  4. 30 MINUTES OF MORNING ME TIME
    I have tried this in 2019, ah such bliss to wakeup and focus on myself. Do other things before checking my crazy handphone for work updates, Social Media, Chats and more. A little zen in the morning will go a long way to set my mood.
  5. PRAY ON TIME
    The culprit would be work and my phone. I get distracted by it. I will try to pray once I hear the Azan. NO DELAYS! Allah does not delay, so I should NOT delay him too.
  6. MASSAGE ONCE A MONTH
    I  have done this a couple of times at the same cycle every month and it has helped me tremendously. It helped with me with the growth, more like shrinking the growth. Alhamdulillah. Will continue this for as long as I can. Plus getting massages for this tired body is just blissful.
  7. DO FACIAL EVERY QUARTER
    I am turning 35 this year, I need to get serious with my skin. Being in the UK for a long period has definitely increased my crow-feet. Skin is so dry here and my pores look huge and clogged suddenly. Need to also have that wedding glow, ya know. Hehe.
  8. TRY PRP
    This was a suggestion from Mama, she said at that glow. Plus it will make my skin so much better after my saga with hormone pills last year. Scared but curious. Any comments on this anybody?
  9. GET BACK INTO READING
    I have the GoodReads app which helps me keep on track with my reading and it has been slow. I do still read many articles online. But I must continue reading my hardcopy Chic Lits. They really do help me destress.
  10. DO ONLINE DATE NIGHTS
    We text each other everyday cause clearly we miss each other and need to be in communication all the time. But since his Masters in Psychology is pretty challenging and I’m going to be more swamped with my clients, we are going to try to a date night per week and text less in the day. He says it will make me miss him even more. So we shall give this a go.
  11. FINALIZE WEDDING THINGS
    I will save this for a different blog post, don’t know if you want to know about it. But it would be my online Wedding Checklist.
  12. REDO THE BEDROOM
    In preparation for the wedding and because my armchairs are in dire need of an upholster.
  13. BRING RALPH AND TYRONE TO THE VET
    It has been a while. Alhamdulillah they are healthy but they deserve a check-up and professional grooming. Miss them so much!!!
  14. DECLUTTER
    This has got to be my favourite of it all. I love throwing out unused and rarely used items. I also throw out or sell them off. It makes me feel so much better after that.
  15. SELL-TO-BUY
    Nowadays, I will only buy something after I have sold something. More like a self-justification of my purchases. It’s quite rewarding I must say.
  16. RECONNECT WITH MY RECYCLING HABITS
    Less plastic. Sort by type. Recycle trash. Bring my recyclable bags wherever I go. Bring my Stojo out. Bring my metal straws. The list to do better will and must be done.
  17. DELEGATE/HIRE
    If you follow my work Social Media, I have posted up a posting in search of an intern and soon a subordinate. Alhamdulillah, things are getting better. Renewed contract too.
  18. GET PAID FOR WHAT I DESERVE AND CONTRIBUTE
    This is key cause I tend to reduce my price just to stay afloat. But the work I put in does not justify or I am being taken for granted of. Will speak more about work in my future post.
  19. STAY AWAY FROM NEGATIVITY AND TOXIC
    I am surrounded by the above and it has taken a mental and emotional toll on me. I have managed to block out some, but the list continues this year. I have to do this for my own growth, self-respect, integrity and mental health.
  20. BE FIRM
    When I say no, it means no. When I say yes, it means yes. When I tell you this is how it should be, that’s how it should be. If my contract states that, that’s what you get.

Anyways, those are my major goals for this year. Would love to be a more holistic person this 2020. Hope you all have an amazing one! Do share your thoughts.

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Old Playground

3Two Square is an old playground of mine. I worked in one of the 4A’s agencies there before I left permanently to work on my own. Had a meeting in the evening with an old colleague and a future client (Insyallah). Being there brought back memories of working in an agency how fun, tiring, interesting it was. Pitches, Pressos and many many late nights and working weekends.

I for one don’t regret my advertising days because it has taught me many valuable skills and lesson.

The meeting was brief but good. We got what we needed and decided to hangout since I’ve not spoken to my ex-colleague for a while now. It started off with weight as we are both under-weight and how impossible it is to gain. Then we went on to talk about mental health.

A topic so taboo among many, particularly the Malays. Anxiety, depression, suicidal and bi-polar. If you have it, it means you don’t pray to God enough. That is the stigma they have.

Different people have different mental state. Their mental health differs from others too. What triggers it, what helps reduce it and many other things. It was really comforting to be able to share and discuss what we are going through. It was definitely a discussion where I took mental notes on how to care and be more attentive to people who suffer from anxiety.

Just so you know, I don’t have anxiety. But there was a point of time in 2016, where I was constantly nervous, uneasy, my heartbeat was so fast and my chest was tight. Pressure machine could not detect my pulse. This was a time where I was so badly cheated by an asshole of an ex. I was put on Xanax to calm me down. But this was also when I sought peace in Allah. This was when I started to get close to Him. I pray more. I was consistent with my prayers. I did a lot of sunat prayers. In many ways, I am grateful I faced this ordeal as I grew spiritually and have a stronger love for Islam.

I suffer from depression. I do know I had this issue but I did know that it was serious till I actually sought help. At one point in my life where I felt scared, I was accused of many false things and such. I could not get out of bed. I could not even face the world. I was scared, I was scared to leave my safe place and I was so alone. I stayed in bed and slept for hours.

It was he who force it down on me to visit a shrink after an incident I faced. He was worried as he isn’t around and the time difference between us. I’m forever grateful that he was so persistent on me visiting his shrink.

Mental health is a serious issue. It is not something we go on all fours and pray to have it. Be gentle on others, you just don’t know what they are going through. Always be open to hear them out.

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